How to pick-up girls with the cocky and funny approach

If you've heard of David DeAngelo, one of the top pick-up artists in the world (although he'd probably prefer the term 'dating coach'), then you've probably also heard of the 'cocky and funny approach' to interacting with women.

It involves teasing the girl, making fun of her but in a way that she finds fun (in no way is she meant to feel bad - if that's happening then you're doing it wrong!). It's also about communicating that you have a higher status and that she needs to prove her worth to you. Above all, it's about being unpredictable!

Here follows a great example from a friend of mine named 'Golden Boy' who's a naturally cocky and funny guy. For the purpose of this interaction he is using the name 'Keanu'. Have a read and if you want to find out more about this technique, click the link at the bottom of the post to get David DeAngelo's free dating secrets newsletter.

Over to the Golden Boy:

"How to seduce a girl on a train ... its the way i roll, i improvise but i tease. This chick is on a train full of people. Nowhere to run...

I look for a seat.
I spy upon a pretty little chickadee.
I sit opposite her.
I'm intrigued.
Lets play:



Me: Excuse me miss what's your childhood ambition?

Her: Hey do i know you?

Me: What's your childhood ambition?

Her: Well it was to be a singer but i gave up, why d'ya ask?
(I ignore this and barrage her with several questions like a machine gun)

Me: You mean you cant sing now? Or did you lose your voice with all that screaming from wild partying?? its sounds 'alright' to me...
Interesting accent btw let me guess new jersey?

She laughs and says she's from Santa M,onic California and is studying English lit. on her summer break in Oxford.
(I tell her I know it's summer but thank her for her kindness.)

This is all in a fucking hilarious way.

So i offer my hand, I can be polite and it was time to touch.

Me: Keanu, pleased to meet you.

Her: Oh cool like Keanu Reeves...blah blah. I'm Daena.

Me: Yeah keanu...I've never heard that before. (deadpan)
Anyway what is that, like some retard version of diana right?

Her: No, it's Hebrew.

Me: Wow you dont have 'that' look?

Her: What look?

Me: Never mind.

Her: No what do you mean?

Me: Shhhh the whole train is listening to this and i'm trying to get it on with you so ...

Her: (she interupts)You're not doing very well!

Me: It was my childhood ambition to pick up an American girl in england on a train and I've stuck to it. Hmmm, what was yours again?

She laughs, there's eye contact.
There's a damn pause and a fucking cockblocking train announcer...
I notice a shopping bag because im fortunate to have eyes and I use them effectively on this occasion.

Me: So, tell me what was your last purchase?

Her: (She notices as I look at the bag) A little jewellery box for my mom.

Me: No way! I bought one of those just the other day! Show me what you got?

Now this girl is easily led man coz she opened the damn thing up when it was gift wrapped, just to show me!

Haha you know whats coming!

Me: Wow! ...that's the one i got! You need to take that back, you copied me!

Her: No way blah you didn't!

Me: Yeah I did but we have great style so I'm not surprised! (high five)

I made her do this 3 times as i faked the first 2!
After the inital fake i heard some guy laugh (awesome! An audience!)

Me: Slight problem! You know i sent this to your mum already so you're gonna have to take it back.

Her: Haha, oh really?

Me: She can have 2 though. All cool people have two things, I mean I have 2 girlfriends!

Her: Two?! That's mean, but I can imagine.

Me: Yes but I'm never satisfied, I'm trying to get 312 (its all in delivery)

Her: (Weird big laugh) You can only find 2 then?

Me: No I'm very fussy, I mean you're way off being one and you know why?

Her: No?

Me: Well, because you didn't follow your dream to be a singer you showed no character. I'm following mine...as I'm still trying to ask you out up for some reason.
And people inspire people maybe you just dont have that.

(silence)

I mean, what's your wildest dream?

Her: (after deliberation) Time travel so I can go back and change the past and see myself in the future.

Me: Well we live in the here and now and this is my stop so you should give me a way for me to contact you in future?

She says 'phone' and gives me her number, I say "nice one."

Another Golden Boy performance.

It was entertainment at its finest!"

Thank you Golden Boy. The best person for explaining the Cocky & Funny approach is David DeAngelo. Click Here for his free dating secrets newsletter and his free '10 Most Dangerous Mistakes Men Make With Women'.

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1. Be confident

This is the single most important thing. You will get nowhere without it. Famously, the actor Sean Connery was asked what is the secret of his success with women and he replied: “Confidence, confidence, confidence.”

If you don’t display confidence, everything else will fall down. It doesn’t matter if you look good, if you’re dressed to kill or if you’re very funny. If you appear shy and nervous, nothing else will matter.

Now you might be reading this thinking I am shy and nervous so I might as well just give up now. Well, if you do that you’ll never improve yourself and you’ll never develop the required confidence.

What I advise here is “to fake it to make it”…at least to start with. Before you step in to the venue you should take some time out and visualise your evening being a success. Imagine approaching the first girl with a confident stride, making eye contact, having a fun conversation, making her laugh. Imagine the feeling you’ll have when this happens. How happy will it make you feel?

Now it’s time to step up to the plate. Walk up as if you have nothing to lose, imagine that you don’t care about the outcome, it’s a privilege for her to meet you.

Take something from each successful interaction and gradually build your confidence. You’ve had a successful, interesting conversation with a woman so why wouldn’t you be able to do it again. Maintain this positive attitude and your confidence will gradually build up.

2. Smile

This is an obvious one but can sometimes be lost in the few seconds before approaching. Women are more receptive, not to mention less threatened by a man who smiles when greeting her. However, don’t keep smiling throughout as this will look unnatural and possibly creepy and may lead to you coming across as slightly goofy.

3. Don’t shake hands

This is not a job interview! Have you ever got a date from a job interview? If the answer is yes, you don’t need to be reading this as you don’t need any help! The mistake that many people make is shaking the girl’s hand when she offers it. Don’t do it! It sets the tone for a formal, unnatural and ultimately boring conversation.

4. Lead the conversation

Following on from the previous tip, you need to lead the conversation. The number one reason for this is that women are looking for their partner to lead them in all manner of situations. A man who leads is seen as very attractive and powerful.

The second reason and is also very important is that you can lead the conversation down an interesting route. If you leave it to the girl she’ll lead you down the path of standard, boring questions such as “what do you do?”, “are you having a good night?” and “where do you live?” These questions are tedious and are no good for sparking attraction unless you respond to them in an offbeat way.

5. Be funny but don’t be a dork

Ok, you want to make her laugh. This is crucial for breaking the tension and for sparking attraction. You want to make her understand that you are a funny, attractive bloke and fun to be around. Make her laugh and she’ll enjoy herself. Most of all she’ll remember you. This is crucial when you’re competing with up to 19 other guys. You need to stand out!

However, don’t spend the whole 3 minutes making fun of yourself or continuously laughing. This will communicate that a) you have low self-esteem and are an individual of lower status and b) that you are nervous and are laughing to break the tension.

Make fun of her but not in a nasty way.

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