Imagine a place full of attractive, single women all of whom are openly seeking a man. Many of whom have paid for the privilege...
Can you see where I'm going with this?
I am of course talking about the world of online dating.
Let's look at a few facts. Match.com report that they receive 24,500 new female subscribers each month. Got that? That's a lot of women! So this should be pretty easy right, like shooting fish in a barrel? Here's another fact: 97% of men give up on internet dating after 3 months. Most common reason for giving up: lack of response from ladies. So, as you can probably see we have a problem.
Most men go into internet dating blind and have no idea how to approach women in this way.
Here are my top 5 tips to help you succeed with girls online. Imagine what you're going to do with all those girls phone numbers once you've put these proven methods into practice.
1. The Subject Line
Why is the subject line so important?
Well, it's the first thing the girl is going to see. Girls receive anything from 50-100 emails a day. Most guys use 'Hi' or 'Hello' in the subject line. How are you going to stand out if you follow suit? Most girls haven't got time to read all the emails they receive so if your subject line doesn't stand out then the chances are she's not even going to read your email.
If she mentions her name in her profile then take advantage of this by putting her name in the subject line. Personalise it!
You also want to create curiosity - make her want to read your message. You can do this by asking a question or making a statement. For example, a good one is "Helen, I'm not sure about you".
2. Profile picture
Keep your shirt on! This is a big one. You might have a great body and want to show it off, but don't, DON'T do it! Girls might check out your picture but they'll probably be laughing at how vain you are or how you take yourself too seriously or are trying too hard to impress.
Fo your main profile picture I recommend a good, clear (not blurred) head shot of yourself on your own. Make sure you're looking good. Make sure your hair's sorted, you're wearing a cool shirt/t-shirt and SMILE!
3. Profile basics
Rule one, make sure you write more than a few sentences but don't go overboard as no one wants to read a whole essay on you!
You want to grab the girl's attention here. Make it interesting. Emphasise your good points. Talk about your passions and hobbies but don't reveal everything. You also want to create mystery and intrigue.
4. Go Undercover
Have you ever wished you could check out the competition in the online world? Have you ever wanted to find out who else is after the girl you're after? Well, you can. It's time for you to become the James Bond of internet dating by taking on this undercover mission.
Here's how you do it. Go to one of your chosen dating sites, put up a female profile of the type of girl you're attracted to and then wait for the messages to start filling up your inbox. You'll be amazed at how truly horrible and unimpressive the competition is.
You can use this information to make sure that you don't make the same mistakes and more importantly to connect with the girl when sending a message e.g. "I know you're probably receiving a 100 emails a day from men who like to take walks on the beach, love dogs and cuddles...blah, blah, blah"
You must try this one tip if nothing else! It will really open your eyes!
5. Search new users
If you're like me you won't like wasting your time. This tip saves time and greatly increases your chances of getting a girl to respond to your emails. Most dating sites have a facility where you can search for the newest members. If you contact a girl who's just signed up, she's far more likely to read your email as she won't yet be inundated with messages. You need to get in there first and beat the competition!
